Are you responsible? Most of us would like to think that we are. But, if you do not have the Talent Theme of "Responsibility" high in your talent mix, I can assure you that you do not understand what responsibility really means....The Talent Theme of "Responsibility" means that you have the natural tendency and inclination to take emotional, psychological and even physical ownership of a situation. To the high "Responsibility" people, it is much more than even a value of a virtue. It is something within their deepest core that just drives them to take responsibility of the outcome of a situation, task or project.
I have nearly never encountered someone with this theme high in their Talent Mix, that immediately fully embrace this theme. Most people with this talent will describe it as a "burden", a "challenge", and even a "curse".
Wow. This is especially true when this theme combines with other specific themes like discipline, belief or deliberative. Still, I am convinced that it is not the theme itself that is the burden - it is the management of that theme that is difficult, and therefor the feeling of strain under that theme comes from the mismanagement of the responsibility.
People with this talent has one specific thing in common: they find it very difficult to say the word "no". They will keep on piling up more responsibility, always making more time to get things done, and (even more so should they have something like "Achiever" in their mix) they will burn themselves on all ends in order to fulfill the expectations... expectations that is mostly set by themselves.
I always urge people with this theme to get their hands on the books by Henry Cloud and John Townsend in the "Boundaries" series. To work on the important skill of setting healthy boundaries, is an absolute must for people with the responsibility talent. They mus learn to stop holding the gun to their own heads. And they should not allow others to hold the gun either.
The beauty of responsibility is tremendous. They are timely, accurate, precise, hard working, and... well, responsible! But we must understand that this is an emotional responsibility. It is a driving force within them. This talent theme might well be the strongest of all the so called "Executing Themes", meaning that someone with this theme will simple GET THINGS DONE. But, it comes at a cost, if mismanaged.
Should you have this theme, or work / live with someone with this theme, be aware of the beauty of it, but also of the shadow side.
The key word here is "well managed".
Next time: Misunderstanding "Harmony"
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